I'm sure you know that I have terrible anxiety. Well, it was an all time high when I went to my first "interview". It was a group interview, or really a group evaluation, basically testing to see if we're good on a team or not. I thought I nailed it. My group was great; we had so much fun completing the tasks and our marshmallow and tooth stick tower was definitely the best. I left that interview feeling confident and happy.
My next interview was a one on one interview. The lady was so nice, and I felt like I did a good job of explaining who I am and what I would bring to the table as far as being an RA and helping Freshman acclimate.
Apparently I did not. I didn't get the job. I got an email saying that my letter was ready across campus. So I ran out of class and up a million flights of stairs just to find out that, no. I did not get the job. To make it even worse, some guy who applied to asked me if I got the job and after I said no, he said "that's okay" and awkwardly walked away.
I was so excited about this job. I even made a Pinterest board to collect ideas of bulletin boards I would make as an RA. Not to mention, the extra $50 a month and $12,000 off of room, board and meal plan and a single room would have been amazing
All summer I've been checking my email just to make sure, because there still is a chance that I could get the job if someone quits or gets fired. But, I leave in 8 days and RA training is well underway and still no email.
Honestly, it sucks. It sucks to have been looking forward to something so much and it not happen. I keep wondering if I could have changed something about my interview or maybe it was just that people were actually better than me. I was just so confident that I would have been a great RA, and it didn't happen.
Like I said I leave in 8 days so I'm trying to focus on that. I've texted my new roommate to try and get to know her and maybe get some things sorted out like who is bringing what, etc. I'm really hoping that because I'm going to have a roommate, I'm going to meet new friends and make some different memories than I would have if I would have been in charge of all of the people on my hall!
How do you get over being disappointed?
The same thing happened to me my freshman year! My boyfriend was an alternate, and ended up being hired! It was really exciting because now he's been in charge of an entire hall for two years now! Keep your head up. I got hired mid year and rocked it! Good luck!
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That's what I'm hoping for! I've heard a lot of RAs get fired after the first few weeks because of partying too much, lol! Hopefully I still have a chance. Thanks so much!
DeleteI'm so sorry to hear about that! It's such a terrible feeling when you think you totally nailed something and got it, but then it turns out you didn't. Keep your head up because other opportunities are right around the corner!
ReplyDeleteIt really is terrible! But I'm trying to move on! Here's to new opportunities!
DeleteI'm so sorry to hear that it hasn't worked out so far - what a bummer! I appreciate your honesty in this post, it can be tough to write about stuff that hasn't been the ideal situation.
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I try to stay real with my readers! I don't want to be that blogger that only posts the happy things that happen to me!
DeleteI'm so sorry girl! I understand the financial hardship of not getting the position so I definitely feel for you. I applied for an RA position in college back in school and didn't make it either. But...the good news is, is that experiences like these will make you stronger in the long run. I had to deal with a lot of job rejection post-grad, so overcoming these obstacles in college really helped me prepare for post grad life!
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry to hear that! A lot of people apply so I'm sure there's really tough competition! I'm glad you're doing well still and are taking on the challenges of new opportunities!
DeleteI'm so sorry it didn't work out for you! I definitely understand how that feels, particularly for big positions and things you were really banking on. I hate building up all this excitement only to be disappointed- I've developed a bad habit of simply attempting not be excited so as not to be let down. But we have to keep going and put our full hearts out there even if it's to be disappointed, because then the next time or eventually when it works out, it will all be worth it. Keep trucking! We're all here for you.
ReplyDeleteCourtney// As We Stumble Along
Yeah, getting excited is the worst part! I was so excited but I was just let down. But that's okay! I'm going to keep trying! Thanks so much girl! It means so much to have support!
DeleteI'm so sorry to hear, but everything's happens for a reason! That's what I think about when disappointed.
ReplyDeleteThat's definitely true!
DeleteHey girl, I am so sorry to hear this. Interviews are an anxious minds worst nightmare (coming from experience) Keep your head up, there are far greater things ahead! xo
ReplyDeleteThey really are! Thanks for the support girl!
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ReplyDeleteGirl, I know exactly what you are going through. My school has an ambassador program that I wanted so badly, we had to make videos and do all these things. I was so positive I was going to get it, I thought I did amazing. Then, I got my email saying I didn't get it. I was broken. But, the whole process taught me so much, and I plan to try again this upcoming school year. Don't be discouraged even though I know that is easier said then done.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry that happened to you! I'm glad that you're going to try again! I really hope you get it! I'll be rooting for you! Let me know! :)
DeleteAww, I am sorry that you didn't get the position. I've gone into interviews before thinking I nailed it too but the interviewer apparently didn't have the same opinion. Just keep your head up because there are so many other great opportunities coming your way!
ReplyDeletexoxo, Jenny || Breakfast at Lillys
It's oaky! I'm just going to let it go and see what other things I can get myself into! Glad you're moving on also!
DeleteI can completely relate to all of this. I am in the same moment in my life right now. Just trying to sort through everything while keeping my head high.
ReplyDeleteNicole // Chronicles of Home
Like you said, just keep your head high! We'll both be okay!
DeleteI can totally understand what you are going through. Not getting something after an interview is the worst because the whole time you just keep blaming yourself like you mentioned. The only thing I always tell myself is that I tried my best and it clearly wasn't a better fit. But just think of all the amazing opportuninities you now have ahead of you. You can join a different club and meet a ton of new people. I know it sucks not getting the RA position especially since I know how close that community is, but I promise you will find your niche. Look into joining some other clubs and get involved!! Good luck chica :)
ReplyDeleteAnnie // Annie N Belle
I'm definitely going to try to get in other clubs! I'm trying to stay positive and keep trucking!
DeleteSorry for your disappointment! Like many of your followers, I can also relate. We have all went through some type of application/interview process on campus that didn't work out like we hoped. After my brief melt down, I always told myself that things happen for a reason and that wasn't the role that I needed to take. Luckily for me...others opportunities came into to play that was more beneficial for me. Maybe not a relief of a financial burden but job/intern opportunities that were related to my field of study. Get involved more on campus because sometimes through it all it comes down to who you know. Gook Luck and keep your head up!!!
ReplyDeletexoxo Dani
www.glamrme.com
I'm glad I'm not alone! Things definitely do happen for a reason! I'm glad you're getting more opportunities! Good luck girl! Thanks for the support!
DeleteI'm so sorry to hear... I can totally understand what you are going through... Don't worry and keep your head up!!
ReplyDeleteThanks for your support girl!
DeleteI am so sorry. :( The best thing I can say during times like these is that everything happens for a reason and there's something SO much better coming your way!
ReplyDeleteLauren
The Fashionista's Diary
I definitely hope so! Thanks for the support, girl!
DeleteIt's so hard to get over disappointment, especially when it's something you were excited about. I usually try to take it easy for a few days then find something new to get excited about.
ReplyDeleteIt definitely is hard, but like you said I'm trying to refocus myself!
DeleteThis is a wonderful piece! I'm terrible at handling with disappointment, I just close up and get really well - angry. Maybe I don't feel disappointment just anger - wait that might be worse. I'm so sorry that you didn't get the RA position, but don't even worry about it! You are a smart, talented, and amazing woman - good things will come! :)
ReplyDeleteHonestly girlfriend, I'm an RA, and I'm gonna give you some flipsides to hopefully help you feel better.
ReplyDelete1.) You won't get woken up in the middle of the night to freshmen drunkenly slamming doors.
2.) You won't have to deal with drunk people, period (in a disciplinary way).
3.) Your time is YOURS and you can invest in yourself with all of that energy you were goiung to invest in others. Or invest in friends, family...the works. It's not lost!
Disappointment sucks, I know. So just keep focusing on your great traits and let yourself sulk briefly, but then push yourself past it and onto the next big thing for you. <3
Coming Up Roses
We've all experienced disappoint some time or another. I know I have many times, but usually something better always came around. Hold your head up, I promise something better will turn up :)
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