1.04.2016

Embrace Yourself: Finding Peace and Tranquility

This New Year one of my goals is to live more simply. Live more in the now. I tend to over schedule, overthink and then I tend to spend more time doing things that simply do not benefit me. While I do love a good Netflix binge, I know that it's really not a good use of my time. I have always had the goal of reading more, journaling more, practice yoga daily, meditate and pay more attention to self care.

So, over the course of the next few months, I am going to be working on a series that encompasses all of these goals. "Embrace Yourself" is what I'm going to be calling this series in hopes that these posts will help you embrace yourself in a way that you find your ultimate goals and find peace and happiness in your life. One of my personal goals at the end of this series is to be able to affectively manage my time to where I have the time to spend the end of my day taking care of my self such as, reading, journaling, meditating, practicing yoga and taking some time for self care.


When you're in college, or really at any point in your life, you have a lot to think about. For college students you have school, tests, homework, studying, possibly a job, friends, your family to keep up with, self care, clubs, and much more. If you have a family that is just multiplied because you have to think about all of those things for every member. But how do you set aside time to find peace and tranquility for yourself. 

Self care is really something I want to work on for myself this year. I tend to think about everyone else in the world other than myself first. Has Koda been fed? Where's Kayla? Does she have an appointment today? When is Koda's next shot? Has she been out recently? When does my best friend get off? Does she want to hang out today? But I realize that needs to stop. Not completely, but I d need to think about myself, my wants and my needs first and then think about everyone else too. But it's hard. 

Peace is a Priority
Spending time for yourself to just be reflective (and meditative if that's your goal) is important. It can serve as an escape from work, school, and at the risk of sounding rude, your family. As much as we love our friends and family, we do need breaks from them, possibly a lot of them. If we just step back from the roles we play - student, friend, girlfriend, wife, husband, boyfriend, mother, child - and truly think about what we are to our core, we will be able to find peace and (at the risk of this going over your head) our deeper selves. Take the time to make peace, tranquility, serenity, etc a priority in your life. Write it in your planner and schedule it if you have to. 

Tranquility Without Solitude
For some of us with roommates and family we're constantly surrounded by, it's nearly impossible to get some alone time to find peace and tranquility. However, there are ways you can sneak in some wonderful peaceful time for yourself. 
  • Use your commute to listen to a meditation sequence (there are many apps online like "Headspace")
  • Take a walk or go exercise
  • Sit out on your back porch and read the book you've been meaning to get to
  • Tell the people around you that you want 15 minutes alone, most of the time they will respect that request
  • Lock yourself in the bathroom for even 5 minutes alone (Hopefully you won't need this drastic measure. However, it is effective due to no one wanting to disturb someone in the bathroom.)
Play into Your Interests

Our hobbies and interests really help make us who we are. These are the things we truly enjoy. While I do love playing video games from time to time, Kayla really happens to love them. She plays video games when she wants some time to herself and stop thinking for a little while. I love to practice yoga, read and work on some blog tasks. These things are what we individually like to do. We love to watch movies and go on walks with Koda together. While those are mindless tasks that do feel peaceful, there are benefits to playing to your own interests for some alone time. 

Is Silence the Key?
For some, you may never really truly feel peace unless there is silence. However, for me I don't necessarily need silence. If I'm practicing, I like to have the "soothing and relaxation" station playing on Pandora. I also listen to this while I'm reading. It provides some background noise while not being to distract me from what I'm doing. Choose the best method of quiet for you. 

I hope you've enjoyed the first post in my "Embrace Yourself" series. I will be back on Wednesday with "Embrace Yourself: Stop the Over-scheduling". 

What would you like to see from this series? Leave a comment!



59 comments :

  1. What a great post!
    I tend to focus on everyone else too so I need to work on that.

    xoxo, Jenny

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    1. Thanks! It's really helpful when you focus on yourself more!

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  2. Oh, I'm really excited about this as I am always scheduling and not always showing my own self love. I really love this!!

    Mikayla | A Seersucker State of Mind.

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    1. The next post comes out on Monday! I hope you enjoy :)

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  3. Excited for the rest of this series! Making peace a priority is definitely something I struggle with.

    Alexandra Adams | X-Height-Ment

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  4. Yes, yes, yes! I am all about embracing myself and finding quiet alone time frequently! Good luck with this goal over the next 12 months!

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    1. Thank you! I just got a desk and put it in our spare room. It feels like a sanctuary already!

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  5. I always find it so hard to spend time alone and reflect but youre so right! It's needed :)

    XoLindsay
    Sugar & Something

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    1. Try and find some time for yourself these next few days!

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  6. Ally, I've always loved your blog and I just LOVE the idea for this series! Especially in college, I've found that it's so difficult to find the peace that you mention, when life can be so busy and hectic. Thanks for this!

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    1. Thank you so much for reading! I challenge you to take sometime for yourself before second semester begins! :)

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  7. Great post! My boyfriend and I have a little phrase that we say when we need to bring a bit of peace into a situation and it is so helpful to have it on hand!

    Excited for the rest of this series!

    La Belle Sirene 

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    1. That's great! I need to do that with my girlfriend!

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  8. Awesome post! I find it so important to have quiet time!

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  9. Great post! I always feel like I put others first and I need to take some time for myself. I really need to get better at that. Hope you're having a great day!

    xoxo
    Amy | pastelnpink.blogspot.com

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    1. You definitely should take some time for yourself! It helps recharge me!

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  10. Love this! One of my resolutions is to worry more about myself and less about what others may think.
    www.kayleighskloset.com

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  11. Most definitely! The older you get the more you realize that the drama isn't worth it. It's so important to find peace.

    xo,
    Sara Kate Styling

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    1. Definitely! I have no drama since coming to college and focusing on myself!

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  12. Such an important post, Ally! If we don't take care of ourselves, burnout will happen quickly. I usually take a long shower when I need time to myself.

    XO, SS || Seersucker Sass

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    1. I take long showers too! No one will disturb you in there!

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  13. Great post! It is so important to take time to breathe. I need to keep reminding myself this.

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    1. We all need a little reminding sometimes! It's okay to get refocused and back on track!

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  14. I love this, girl! It's so important to be still and find a quiet place to give yourself a time-out. :)

    X,
    cristinaoncampus.blogspot.com

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  15. YES. I cannot tell you how much I needed this post! I am dying for inner peace, but I am struggling with it. I will be following along with your series so I can find peace.

    Nicole // Chronicling Home

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    1. I am struggling also. With my girfriend, my dog, work, school, etc, I have a hard time finding time to paint my nails and do some things that I've been meaning to do, like read!

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  16. I love this and will definitely be thinking about it often as the month goes on.

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  17. So many great tips in this post, looking forward to reading more from this series.

    -Ruya
    sweetshortandstylish.com

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    1. The next post becomes like on Monday! I can't wait to hear what you think!

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  18. I never live in the now. It's actually why I have extreme anxiety and it's been super bad lately. I'm hoping that I really get it together soon because it's hard living like this!
    xo
    lauren

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    1. I believe that's why I have anxiety also. I'm always thinking "what's the next thing I need to do?" It's definitely no way to live, so I try and make time to calm down and not stress at the end of the day!

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  19. I love going on a walk not only to get exercise but to clear my thoughts when things are getting overwhelming and need time just to myself. Great post!

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    1. Same! Whenever my head fills full I take my pup on a walk!

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  20. Great post! I also have to work on finding/making more time for myself to hopefully minimize stress!

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    1. I hope it works out for you! Let me know! :)

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  21. Great series! I struggle with finding tranquility without solitude!

    HashtagFabLife

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  22. Excited to see more of this series. Taking time to focus on myself is something I want to do more of in 2016!

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    1. The next post is live on Monday! I think you'll benefit from it!

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  23. Yes! Taking time for yourself is so important!!! Thanks for sharing your thoughts :-)

    XO,

    Hannah from http://www.hmsjewels.com

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  24. Such a great idea for a series! Can't wait to read more!

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    1. Thank you! I can't wait to hear what you think!

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  25. I'm excited for this series! We could all use a little more peace and this is actually a focus for me as well! Best of luck.

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    1. Good luck! I hope you continue to read this series!

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  26. I need to place peace and mental health in the forefront of everything I do. I'm so excited to read more of this series.
    Shaguna
    <a href="http://www.goldandhearts.com”>gold&hearts</a>

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    1. I do also! That's why I'm making it my number one goal for this year!

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  27. Love this series! Peace is so important and focusing more on myself is too rather than focusing on everyone else.

    x Sarah
    http://www.bohochiccafe.com

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    1. Good luck! It's challenging but the end results of time alone and focusing on yourself is so great!

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  28. Interesting read! Although it seems you and I are in totally different life stages, I can remember when this was a personal concern. Best of luck in the new year!

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